Coping With Difficult Emotions: A Guided Meditation for Grief

When you are reeling from a significant loss, coping with difficult emotions may seem like an impossible task. It is natural to want to turn away from or suppress painful feelings. But as you probably know, the stronger and emotion is, the harder it will persist.

As a grief professional, sadness is not an uncommon emotion for me to encounter. As a bereaved person myself, I know how familiar these difficult emotions can become. Mindfulness can help us cope with difficult emotions without denying the reality of our pain.

Last week I attended a funeral for an old friend who died too young. As I sat in the balcony, scanning the faces of people who loved him – and seeing so many of my friends in pain – I felt a tidal wave of sadness well up in my heart. For a moment, I felt like I could drown.

I closed my eyes and tried to focus on my next exhale, but the whisper of my breath was drowned out by the crescendo of emotion building up inside. “What’s happening in my body?” I asked.

I sensed the sensation of sadness as a gray oblong shape resting just below my heart in my lower ribs. I got curious, how big is this? What is it made of? What is its shape? This type of inquiry can help us drop the story and connect with direct experience.

Sadness in this moment, it turned out, was made of a cold metal shell, protecting a soft and warm center. It felt both vulnerable and safe at the same time. Suddenly, these words came to me:

Make a pillow for your sadness – so it can lie down and you can watch it sleep.

At that point, all my resistance to the difficult emotion melted away. I felt my body relax as the cold metal seemed to soften. The tidal wave turned into a pool. And somehow, by paying attention to my own body, I felt more connected to everyone else in the room.

Guided Meditation for Coping With Difficult Emotions

Even when you feel like you are being pulled down into a whirlpool of suffering that seems inescapable, the practice of mindfulness can help you reduce your suffering. Here is a guided meditation for coping with grief’s difficult emotions using the techniques I outline above. May it bring you peace.

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Heather Stang

Mindfulness Author & Trainer at Mindfulness & Grief
Heather Stang, M.A. is the author ofMindfulness & Grief and the Frederick Meditation Center founder. She holds a Masters degree in Thanatology (Death, Dying, and Bereavement) from Hood College in Maryland, and is a certified Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy practitioner. She has led mindfulness-based grief workshops for organizations such as the National Fallen Firefighters Association and Hospice of Frederick County, and is a member of the Association of Death Education and Counseling. Heather’s mission is to help people who are grieving to stay healthy and benefit from the transformative experience of grief, using mindfulness-based practices, relaxation, and expressive arts. She has an established practice offering Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy sessions, day-long retreats, and 8 Week Yoga for Grief groups. She is based in Maryland. You can find her on Google +.
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